My name is Valerie and I am a recovering people pleaser (thank you to my friend Corlee for introducing me to that term). I genuinely love people and enjoy doing things for them = a strength. Finding my value in how people respond to me = a stinky way of relating. God continues to come for that area in my life, and the other day I realized that if someone doesn't like me, it is not necessarily an indication that I am doing something wrong. In fact, it could be an indication that I am doing something right. And I really can't control how someone responds to me, no matter how much I do or don't do for them. Putting up healthy boundaries and not creating pressure on myself to meet the demands of others (or my perceived demands of others) is pretty liberating. Living without the fear of possible disapproval can actually free me to love more authentically. I know that's not a revolutionary thought. Not much on this blog is. But then...are there really any new ideas? I wonder. I am reading a devotional book by Corrie ten Boom. It is actually writings from a forgotten archive of her radio program. In the devotions I read a few days ago, Corrie says, "love wins". Corrie's radio program aired from 1966 to the early 1970s. Before Rob Bell was born or maybe he was a little baby, Corrie ten Boom said "love wins". She just didn't have it made into hipster bumper stickers. But then...are there really hipster bumper stickers? I wonder.
What does all of this have to do with style? My style is eclectic. Some days bohemian, some days boyish, and some days grandma. Bohemian style is really easy to pull off in the summer time. Summer screams boho. However, Michigan winter style is often characterized by the need to stay warm. But since I was feeling so free the other day, I decided to dress accordingly. Free spirit winter style.