Your Style

My StyleValerie 4 Comments

Sipping tea on a snowy Sunday and blogging.  I had to take a break from painting kitchen cabinets.  Well, actually, I am waxing them today.  I am new to Annie Sloan Chalk Paint and loving it, but what was I thinking painting kitchen cabinets?  It may take me five years six months to finish them, but I will.  For those of you that use chalk paint, it's kinda tricky not to get the dark wax looking streaky, isn't it?  Or maybe it's me?  Someone should blog about that.  Kidding.  Tons of people have and I have read almost all of them, but I'm still finding it hard not to get too many streaks.  Or maybe it's supposed to look a little uneven? Oh, wait this is my break from kitchen cabinets.

Let's talk style...

I have had a few friends ask me questions about defining their personal style.  I am not an expert, but for as long as I can remember, I have loved style.  Since grade school, I would see an advertisement in a magazine or a person on television in an outfit that I liked and I would try and recreate it with clothes from my closet.  Or my dad's closet.  Or my mom's hope chest.  And I didn't want it to look exactly like the outfit, only the "feeling" of the outfit.  Yeah, I was a little weird.

Still am.

So if you feel like you don't have a personal style and would like some ideas on creating one, here are my recommendations.  Get on Pinterest or go to the library.  Remember the library?  That's the original Pinterest.  Where people would go and check out books on topics that interested them.  And if you are like me, the librarians know your name because you lovingly make regular contributions to the library in the form of late fees.  Find pictures in books or on Pinterest of clothing styles that you like.  You know...that outfit that you see and think, "Oh, I love that so much!"

After that, the second step is very important.  It's called "Shut up!".  That's what you say when you see an outfit you love, but immediately there is a voice in your head that says, "But I wouldn't look good in that."  When you hear that voice you say, "Shut up!"  Because that is stinkin' thinkin'.  It's important to know your body shape and what flatters it, but I also think that way too often women don't even try certain styles because they are convinced it won't look good.  You don't know until you try!

The third step is to look in your own closet for ways that you can create the feel of the outfit you liked.  It doesn't have to be exact.  In fact, that's the beauty of creating your own's your style.  This may take a little effort at first and feel a little discouraging, but over time you will begin to get into a rhythm.

Once you have created an outfit, the final step is to wear it and own it.  Personal style takes courage.  If you feel uncomfortable, unsure of yourself, feel like you look ridiculous, then it will show.  This is probably the hardest step, but I think it's the most liberating one.  You walk out the door with confidence because you dressed the way you want--for you, not for anyone else.  The more you do this, the easier it gets.

Now I realize that there are those out there who may think this is all rather superficial and a bit shallow.  That's okay.  I'm not talking about being all consumed by what you wear and making it your main focus.  However, we spend a lot of our day in clothes (unless you're a nudist and then you may find this post isn't so interesting to you).  And since we spend a lot of our day in clothes, we might as well have fun doing it.

Also, don't be afraid to think outside the box.  I love borrowing clothes from the men in my house.  Let's hear it for the boys!